Literally, I’m Cher Without Stacey Dash & Why I Moved To NYC!

Outfit Details:

Sweater : Target

Sweater Water Stains: Washing Dishes Inbetween Shoots 😂

Jeans: Urban Outfitters

Shoes: Converse

Confidence: Not Sold It’s Acquired Over Time

Getting rid of all the Stacey Dash’s around me has been amazing.

Literally, ridding my closet of unwanted clothes, my life of unwanted things and toxic traits in myself. Also, getting through this debt, but that’s another story for a different day.

Lately, I’ve been asked, “Why Did You Move To New York City.” So, I thought why not share what led me to come to the big apple.

The Dream

Growing up, I only knew of New York City from watching TV shows and movies such as the Cheetah Girls, Mary-Kate and Ashley series, The Real Life of Kimora Lee Simmons and anything with Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks.

I would walk around my house taking pictures with an instant camera pretending I was a model, guess you can say I invited selfies 😂.

I shared on and Instagram post that I wanted to be a designer. Watching designers such as Kimora Lee Simmons and seeing her show, The Fab Life of Kimora Lee Simmons, she was constantly between New York and LA.

Anytime the topic comes up I say you’re either an east coast or a west coast person and I am definitely an east coast girl.


Surprisingly when it came time to apply to college, I didn’t apply to any schools past the south (Clemson University, was the furthest north I went.) Part of me felt like New York City wasn’t a possibility but that was just little RaSheba dreaming. Not adult RaSheba doing.

After graduating from college, I took a gap year to just enjoy life, but really I wasn’t enjoying anything.

I worked at a job where I was the minority, there was no progression and sense of advancement for myself.

When I interviewed for the position, my supervisor told me, I want to hire you but I don’t see you being here long. You see more like a city girl who would thrive in New York City, Atlanta or LA. When she said NYC my heart skipped a beat and got excited. My love and thrill for NYC was revived.

Against her opinion she did hire me and I did enjoy working with my supervisor.

I took my first trip to NYC alone after a hurricane passed through and fell in love with the city that I only saw in the TV or heard about. (I talked about my first time in New York City part one here and part two here.)

Getting Rid Of The Stacey Dash’s

Lene Hypolite, Founder, Host of the @glowuppodcast

A year later, I began to really be unhappy going into work. I dreaded heading into the office, I was uninspired and realized no growth was going to happen. It was a toxic environment with coworkers who gossiped, talked behind each other’s back and spoke mainly negative things.

I decided once my lease was up I would move to New York City.

In preparing my move to NYC, I appreciate all the friends and support I got from people. Then there were the Stacey Dash’s who told me New York is expensive, it’s dirty, you shouldn’t go alone. In my move New York City video, I talked about my mom not supporting my move, even friends and a few acquaintances. In life you have to silence the noise and make decisions that will satisfy YOUR happiness.

Yes New York City is expensive but it just means I got to go harder to live. It has challenged me in being strategic in finding ways to make money and managing my money.

I moved to the city alone but if I waited for someone to do something with me I’d be waiting forever. I’d be moving scared. Making decisions where both parties may not be happy and settling for less than my happiness.

It’s been a whirlwind but one of the best decisions I’ve made for myself. Don’t stop yourself from making a decision that could bring you happiness because of money. If you really wanted it you would kill the excuses, push past the fear and take the first step.

Over the past few weeks I’ve learned that there will be times when people don’t understand what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Heck you don’t even understand. However, you have to kill the curiosity and fear, take that leap of faith into the unknown.

A mix of being unhappy with life, following younger RaSheba’s dreams and taking a leap of faith, I moved to New York City and have been her for six months.

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